Lately I’ve noticed how much my overall attitude and mood has improved. Not that I was a scrooge before but I regularly complained about things like my workload, the weather, or whatever else I could grasp to make myself feel pitiful and to further justify my sad behavior. The environment at Northwestern doesn’t help- where complaining about everything is the norm. This year however, I’ve (mostly) turned a new leaf. I try to avoid complaining because the five seconds of pity isn’t worth much and it certainly doesn’t do anything to improve my relationships. I let the negativity out when I need it, but generally I’ve adopted a happier attitude even though things still don’t necessarily go my way.
Nothing’s changed, but I find myself smiling a lot more and I feel much more confident about my relationships. I had to stop and reflect how that could be and I finally figured out the trick: I fall in love everyday. Sometimes it’s realizing why I cherish a particular friend, sometimes it’s related to intellectual stimulation, sometimes it’s getting comically excited about that Taco Bell, and sometimes it’s that wave of wonder I get while looking at the moon. Often times it’s an intriguing stranger who I just really want to know- with no expectation of reciprocation. To clarify, I don’t mean love in a sappy “frolic in rose petals” way but more in the “I’m genuinely grateful for your existence” sort of way.
I’ve learned to see more things by opening my heart and mind. It may seem premature and even concerning, but accepting everything around you and truly letting your mind wander does wonders. It even leads to some surprise experiences that may seem insignificant but can really brighten your mood. Looking back, I’m now living with less regret and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
The Beatles were right- All you need is love
*But it doesn’t have to be the love Hollywood claims we should have. Love and appreciation comes in any and all forms. And in my book it isn’t restrictive or static. It engages your every pore- even if it’s only for a flighting moment.
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